tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2795619329331863089.post6078442342168723220..comments2023-06-30T07:51:38.940-04:00Comments on Contemporary Psychoanalytic Musings: Benjamin on Recognition and RegulationUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2795619329331863089.post-87393675562139609952013-12-08T13:32:32.400-05:002013-12-08T13:32:32.400-05:00I learned a lot from Jessica Benjamin. I learned t...I learned a lot from Jessica Benjamin. I learned that its okay to take care of your own needs in a relationship even if that creates guilt in yourself and emotions in the other as long as you talk about it. Logically this seems obvious but at a deeper level I'm not so sure I felt this way. <br /><br />I feel this issue strikes to the very heart of the matter in relationships. Sacrificing your own needs for the other works great until one can go on no longer.<br /><br />This simple and elegant solution might be a way to create durable long term relationships, what could be more important then that?<br /><br />All this seems obvious after Jessica Benjamin's talk which is the mark of an extraordinary person. Erik Stromnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2795619329331863089.post-47786301379260907562013-12-08T11:55:03.554-05:002013-12-08T11:55:03.554-05:00Why can't [we] speak in plain terms and access...Why can't [we] speak in plain terms and accessible analogies?<br />I hate ideas I can't wrap my head around. The "third" falls in that category. The only terms really needed are "peerage", "connection", "respect", "kindness", and "intimacy". In analysis "we are peers". "I am your peer". "I can go intensely dark places with you."<br /><br />And "moral third"? What does she have, like three different concepts of the third? If ideas cannot easily be translated to the mass public, there is a good chance they are pretty much useless ...<br /><br />Tim LaDucanoreply@blogger.com