WInnicott wrote of survival in his 1969 The Use of an Object paper. Survival for
the mother or the analyst attacked by the baby or the analysand, respectively, means
neither withdrawing nor retaliating. One analysand put it this way.
Thank
you for allowing to express disdain for you without taking offense, without
crumbling or acting childish.
Thank you for allowing
me to express contempt without making me feel wrong.
Thank you for allowing
me to express disgust without retaliating.
Thank you for allowing
me to hate you without making me feel ashamed, bad.
Thank you for allowing
me to be me and not throwing a guilt trip on me for doing so.
Thank you for allowing
me to grow.
Thank you for allowing
me to express my feelings.
Thank you for being
you.
Thank you for showing
me it's ok to be imperfect.
Thank you for teaching
me how to withstand forces that want to rip me apart.
I want you as a
friend, not an analyst.
I want you as an
analyst, not a friend.
I didn't know you
could be both.
Thank you for
accepting me as I am, and all the hell that comes with that.
Thank you for letting
me hate you.
Thank you for no
strings attached.
Thank you for no
conditions.
Thank you for no
retaliation.
Thank
you for love.
Thank you for your
patience as I try to share my pain, find who I really am.
1 comment:
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